Saturday, November 26, 2011

Sometimes we feel depressed


There are times when we must go through negative situations. Maybe people say something negative about us, or they show rejection or even resentment against us. In such situations, it may be difficult to stay positive. We may be inclined to react negatively to them. That won’t do us any good though; doing so will just make the situation worse. People may behave even more negatively to us. Our day would be filled with anger and disappointment. At the end, nobody wins.
Though it’s not easy, it’s important to stay positive in negative situations. Beat the negative situations by staying positive. Here are 15 tips on how to do it; pick the ones that work for you:
  1. Never respond when you are not calm. If you are not sure that you are calm, don’t respond. Take time to calm yourself down first.
  2. Take a deep breath as a first step to calm yourself down.
  3. Speak in gentle tone to reduce the tension of the situation.
  4. Realize that you can find opportunities in negative situations. Albert Einstein said: “In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.”
  5. Look at the content of what people say to you for something positive that you can act upon to improve yourself. Don’t just reject the whole messages.
  6. For the rest of the messages which is negative, simply ignore it.
  7. Maintain positive view of the people. Maybe you don’t like their messages or behavior, but that doesn’t mean that you can hate them personally.
  8. Realize that having negative feelings will just hurt you, not them. So there is no reason for you to have any negative feeling.
  9. If you make mistakes, be open to admit it.
  10. If you make mistakes, remember this quote by George Bernard Shaw: “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.”
  11. If you can, listen to motivational audio program to feed positive thoughts into your mind.
  12. Talk to a positive friend who can encourage you.
  13. Remember your favorite quotes to give you inspiration and motivation.
  14. Look at the negative situations around for real life. The higher you climb in life, the worse the negative situations would be, so you’d better be prepared for them.
Realize that you can’t please everyone. In fact, nobody can. Sometimes you need to just let some people go. Realizing this will relieve you from a lot of unnecessary burden so that you can focus on the people that you can positively interact with.

Sunday, October 30, 2011

A small line with big thoughts

Am I scared? Am I moving ahead of the ideals to which I sticked so much? Am I victimized with innocences and goodness? Hey.... to be a good is a virtue and being good so much to so many is a sin. Because we live in a world where we need to play multiple roles as we are social. Role conflicts may put one in a position of shame, scaredness, humiliation and so on. I find a social relation may it be spousal, parental, cultural, intellectual  or any forms as one may categorize is beset with expectations, conditions and purely material thoughts in between which triggers the very existence and continuity. People say... Good to see you.. have a good day,, thankful to you..... you are so kind and loving.... its really great to have you and many things like this. These small lines denotes a lot if you think deeply to the words. My experiment with people around reveals many things to which sometimes I feel dejected, irritated and also depressed. But when I think I am just a small creature does not know how long I can survive, I feel little bit comfortable to the bad things happening. Thanks to GOD... HE should give us courage and strength to walk in a world of unknown associates.

Thursday, October 27, 2011

A friend what I feel

Everyone has self-doubts and insecurities from time to time. It's common to worry about how we look, our performance at college or at work, or how others perceive us. Sometimes we may question whether we said or did the right thing in a specific situation -- or worry about something as minor as whether we picked the right pair of shoes to complement a little black dress.
 
Like most people, whenever I'm unsure about myself, I tend to ask a friend or close family member for a second opinion. A healthy dose of skepticism and uncertainty about ourselves is a good thing because it helps us make better decisions. No one knows everything or has perfect instincts, and having good friends on whom we can rely for advice helps improve our sense of self-confidence and make better decisions.
To me every friend has some strengths or skills that help us strive to do things a better way. Friends sometimes see strengths in us that we aren't able to recognize ourselves and give us the encouragement to try something new or do something better.The best part of close friendships is that the feelings are reciprocal: They share our dreams and we are able to do the very same thing for our friends as they do for us!

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Something goes wrong???

Life has never been a smooth passage and almost all creatures face ups and downs that makes the life a life of "going to perfection". Sometimes I am being down with blows and feel as if I get lost in things that disturbed my emotional state. The blows come and go leaving solid lessons that refine my approach to life. This time the super cyclonic storm that threatened my very existence taught me lessons that I am unable to digest with limited time space. Rising heart beats and irregular pulses when storm blows me away from a place that I felt much secure and inspiring continued unabated. But I put question to myself again and again "why we face such hurting things even though we did nothing wrong? why we face a storm when the climate was undisturbed and soothing?" Still I do not get answer. It is just a cry in the open air. Let me find out again, if something goes wrong and will be back soon with what made me so and what for.

Sunday, October 16, 2011

A morning without sunrise

It was just 5.30am I waked up from my subconsciousness looking for something that can bring a hope. Waited...... waited... the sun did not rise and may be hiding under the clouds of so many confusions.